I was twenty-seven before someone told me I was a victim. I was twenty-seven before I was able to face the turmoil created by too many unspoken traumas. Twenty-seven before I realized the power I was giving my perpetrators by keeping their crime silent. Twenty-seven before I spoke it. Just spoke it. The liberation of […]
Of all the topics I cover in my seminars, the subject of relationships seems to elicit the most interest and response. At our core, I think we MKs and TCKs know that we don’t function like others in this area, yet we can’t quite put our finger on what it is that makes us so […]
You know what I’d like to see between the videos of ice-bucket challenges—as useful as they’ve been in bringing attention to ALS? In the midst of the uproars and scandals saturating our screens and airwaves, I want to be reminded of the goodness of mankind. It’s there. It’s alive. Those buckets are a start, but… […]
On June 23, Reverend Charles Moore parked his car near a strip mall in Grand Saline, Texas. He knelt. He poured gasoline over his head. He set himself on fire. The 79-year old pastor and activist died later that day, certain that his self-sacrifice would bring attention to the causes God had put on his […]
I thought the Facebook status about my solitary July 4th celebration was innocuous—a pictorial tribute to a close-to-perfect day: my favorite food, a fluff movie (Transformers: loved it!), a long walk by a scenic lake and enough patriotism to color it all with subtle shades of red, white and blue. A caring friend sent me […]
This article is not (repeat—not) a manifesto on the validity and value of boarding schools, though I’ll affirm that blanket statements are a disservice to the discussion. I’ve seen students thrive, their ties to their parents deepened through the boarding experience. I’ve also seen students wither away and grow bitter as they’ve endured life in […]
So you’re taking a stand against human trafficking. That’s great. But just so you know—you can’t really be against human trafficking and think porn is okay. You’ve signed the petitions and memorized the statistics: a $32 billion per year industry in which 1,000,000 children—one million children—are sold into the international sex trade. It’s awful. It’s […]
The murders perpetrated by Elliott Rodger in Isla Vista last Friday are horrific. His women-hating motivation is equally disturbing. We are rightfully outraged and, to express it, have turned to social media with a fast-spreading #yesallwomen hashtag intended to raise awareness and unify us in our dismay. Yes, violence against women is rampant across the […]
I’ve grown accustomed the controversy that follows the Academy Awards. This year, though, it was a little dumbfounding. In some circles, Lupita Nyong’o’s acceptance-speech statement that “No matter where you’re from, your dreams are valid” was met with philosophical dismay and disapproval. “Not all dreams are valid” came the impassioned refrain from sources I generally […]
There is a saying in the Christian community that makes me angry. It’s a popular one too. I once heard missionary parents state that they decided to keep their three teenage daughters with them in a war-torn African city because they so firmly believed that “there is no safer place than the center of […]